“So
they sat down with him on the ground seven days and seven nights, and no one
spoke a word to him, for they saw that his grief was very great.” (v.13)
When Job’s three friends arrived, they could tell that he was in
deep grief. But rather than immediately offer their condolences, they sat with
him on the ground for a whole week without saying a word. They restrained what
must have been a strong urge to offer advice and suggestions and chose instead
to express their sympathy by silently bearing his suffering with him.
In the presence of grief, words sometimes are a hindrance. Often
we resort to speaking because we’re uncomfortable with the silence rather than
because we have something to say. Consequently, when trying to console a friend
we often engage in empty clichés. People who have borne deep anguish, however,
testify that it is the silent presence of those who care that brings the deepest
comfort. It is not their words but their quietly sharing the load of sorrow
that helps the bereaved bear up under suffering.
Therefore, don’t
be in a hurry to speak to those who are grieving. A hug or a squeeze on the arm
may bring more comfort than a hundred words. Ask God’s Spirit to make it clear
to you when He has prepared your friend’s heart to hear your words. Until then,
let your comfort be expressed in silence and in prayer rather than words.
Less
talk often means more comfort.
The
Truth
“He
who restrains his lips is wise.” (Proverbs 10:13)
